Islamic Wedding in India
Islamic Wedding in India
Assalam Aleykum!!!! Thanks for sneaking in to read my blog on Islamic Weddings in India. I’m Vedika Dursheti – A makeup artist by profession. I’m very passionate about the different cultures in India, but I think with moving lifestyles people are forgetting their roots.
My blog series will introduce you to various rituals & customs in Indian Weddings and its relevance in our lives. There are various reasons why these customs were established in the first place and why do our ancestors follow them traditionally.
Islam is one of the most prominent religions and has numerous rituals and unique traditions to follow in their ceremonies. Over 172 million people marry by traditional Islamic rules in India. An Indian Muslim wedding is a unique blend of traditional Islamic customs as well as adapting the pre-existing rituals of multi-cultural Indian sub-continent.
Muslim wedding is called “Nikah”. It is an Urdu word that means the union of two individual souls. As per Islamic culture, there is no specific auspicious time needed for a good cause. Hence, marriage rituals can take place at any time. Traditionally, this ceremony is organized at either the bride’s house or groom’s house, but nowadays, it takes place at a banquet hall, or community centers as per convenience. There are various rituals performed which can be classified into three categories namely pre-wedding, on-the-day, and post-wedding. Seems Interesting right!!!! Want to know more about Islamic Weddings in India? Then what are you waiting for, please scroll down to dive into the event “Salatul Ishtikara” of my blog “Phases of an Indian Muslim Wedding”.
Arranged marriages are prevalent in Indian Muslim community. The matches are found within same religion and community, once the match is finalized the religious head or the Imam of the nearby mosque is called to perform special prayers for taking Allah’s consent for this union and his blessings for the future couple. This is the official announcement of marriage in Islamic Weddings. Some people also include it in Muslim wedding cards. After reading Istikhara that person gets the consent of Allah SWT through the dream of some sign in his / her daily life. You can ask for anything to Allah SWT by reading Istikhara and almighty will guide you on what is perfect for you. In Islam, it is believed that in case you are having options for some specific work and you are confused to choose one, then you can take help of the Istikhara Dua and can get best idea from the side of almighty. You can say that Istikhara is the way to get suggestion from the side of Allah SWT to show you the right path. It is advised that everyone should do Istikhara before doing something important in life.
Post few days after Salatul Ishtikara, mother of the Groom, on a decided auspicious day, visits the Bride’s home carrying gifts and sweets. The significance of this ceremony is that the mother in law carries a gold or silver coin wrapped inside a silk scarf and ties it around the Bride’s wrist, which shows acceptance of the bride as a daughter in law by the mother in law. Just like this ritual, even Hindu weddings have Shagun ceremony. Please scroll below to get into the next event “Mangni” of my blog “Phases of an Indian Muslim Wedding”.
As in any other religion, even Islamic engagements are carried forward with exchange of rings and gifts. This ceremony officially seals the intension of marriage between two families. Close friends and relatives come together to witness the Ring exchanging ceremony. This is the public declaration of the betrothal of the Bride and Groom. This is an adopted ritual by Islam’s in India. Followed by Mangni would be Manjha. It is same as Haldi ceremony. A paste made of Turmeric, sandalwood and rose-water is applied to the Bride’s face, hands and feet. Women and girls of the house and neighborhood sit and sing songs of the Bride and Groom.
There are fun and mischief activities with loads of enjoyment on this occasion. After the turmeric paste gets dried, the Bride goes to take a bath. The same event is also observed at the Groom’s residence. This whole event is said as Manjha and after the completion of this event; the Brides are not allowed to go outside the house. The same event takes place at the Groom’s house also.
The Mehandi ceremony is celebrated in both Hindu as well as Muslim weddings. Mehandi is a symbol of endless love, sacrifice, and bonding of togetherness of the Bride and Groom for each other. With the paste of henna, both the hands and legs of the Bride and Groom are decorated. Mehandi artists are usually appointed a few days before for this occasion. There are plenty of Mehandi designs available now-a-days. Professional Mehandi designer decorates the hands and legs of the Bride and Groom at their homes. Even the other ladies and girls of the house apply Mehandi on their hands. It is said that if the color of the Mehandi of the Bride is darker than her husband is more loving and caring.
This is also a pre-wedding ritual where the Bridal outfit and jewelry is sent from the in laws to the Bride’s house. Memebers of the Groom’s family visit the Bride’s family with other gifts and sweets.
This is the primary wedding ritual performed by a Maulvi. This ceremony is officiated by a religious prist or a maulvi. The men sit around the Groom and the women sit around the Bride. The bride’s father is the Wali of the Bride. The Groom’s family offers her Mehr to seek her consent. Prayers from the Quran are recited by the Maulvi.
The Ijab-e-Qubool is the most pivotal ritual Muslim wedding. The Bride and Groom are kept separate from each other. The Maulvi asks both of them to consent, and they have to say “Qubool Hai” thrice to give their consent. This is similar to the Christian “I do”, only. The Bride and Groom have to say it thrice and they are behind a hijab that separates them from each other during the process.
This is followed by the Nikah Nama. This is the official marriage contract where the duties of the Groom and the Bride, as per the holy Quran, are recited in presence of two witnesses each from the Bride’s and Groom’s families. After the official marriage is signed, a Khutba is recited, followed by the marriage vows in the Quran. In the end, the elders perform durud, or blessing on the new Bride and Groom.
Traditionally the Bride and the groom first see each other on the mirror in presence of the holy Quran. The couple get the chance to lay eyes on each other for the first time after the marriage has been solemnized.
It is like the Vidai ceremony. The bride bids a goodbye to her family and leaves for her Husbands’ house. When she reaches to the Husbands’ house she is warmly welcomed by her mother in law and as a reminder of her duties the Holy Quran is placed on her head at the welcome. This concludes the Wedding. Post this would be Walimah where the families come together, socialize and get to know each other better.
The reception. This is the second of the two traditional parts of an Islamic wedding. It is the public declaration of the marriage. The walima is performed after the Nikah (Arabic: نكاح) or marriage ceremony. The word walima is derived from alwalam, meaning to gather or assemble. It designates a grand feast of traditional Muslim delicacies in Arabic. Walima is used as a symbol to show domestic happiness in the household post-marriage. It is the meeting of the newlyweds for members of both the families and their friends.
This ceremony is when the Bride visit’s her parents’ home on fourth day of the marriage accompanied by her husband. Her parents treat the newlyweds with a lavish lunch and send them back with various gifts. As you’re now aware of the importance of each ritual, you can now jump to get into next important thing which is “Poshak/Zevar”.
According to the Quran, a Muslim bride is supposed to be completely covered. And hence historically Muslim brides wear salwar-kameez on their wedding day. A dupatta is used to cover their head and the remaining hands. With upcoming trends Muslim bride now also adore Heavy work Shararas and Gararas as show in the image below. Colors preferred are red, green and ivory.
“Polki” – Uncut raw diamond has a high dominance in Muslim bridal jewelry. Colors like red and green are preferably considered while choosing the jewelry. There are only a few jewelry pieces worn by a Muslim bride but they are highly exclusive and heavy. In southern part of India, Muslim brides adore Gold statement jewelry. It is not very common though. All their jewelry is made in gold.
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